Codes of Conduct We at Beccehamians pride ourselves in that playing rugby is not just about winning it is about the enjoyment of the game and the enjoyment that the players get from it. What we would like to expect from parents; We would like parents to get to know their age group manager and let him or her know if their child will be absent on Sunday, whether there is a fixture or 'merely' coaching. Coaches cannot prepare the side properly for matches if only half the players turn up on training days It is nice if parents can watch their child, both during coaching sessions and at matches, even if you know nothing about the game! This does not need to be every week but it's great for the children to know they have support, it also makes life much easier for the coach to know that he or she has the parents' support In the younger age groups, mums and dads are encouraged to help with the 'coaching'. Don't worry! - all coaching means at the basic level is encouraging the children to catch and throw the ball and run. There are a number of basic courses available to help parents - even if you don't want to go through the whole coaching programme. Details of these courses are available from the Mini's Manager, please ask if you are interested, more coaches are always needed and always appreciated. To help you stay, the clubhouse breakfast bar is open - selling hot tea's, coffee's, breakfast rolls and hamburgers. The main bar opens at noon. We do try to run separate sides for all age groups. We also try not to play over-age children in an age group. However, if a child is small for his or her age, is new to the game and the normal risks of the game are not increased, it may be considered. In competitive matches, the opposing coach must be told, however small and new to the game the player may be. At Sunday morning coaching, age groups may combine for practice matches. This will be at the discretion of the two coaches concerned who will always bear in mind the safety of the children - safety will always be our paramount concern. Proper winter clothing - It is also essential that parents ensure that players have a tracksuit top and bottom with them every Sunday - whether training or playing matches, there is always some standing around and a player must have proper clothing, especially during the winter months. Spirit of the Game, Children come first - winning comes second Winning is nice but the objectives of the youth section are to teach the skills of the game to as many players as possible and for them to enjoy the fun of rugby, whether it is running or tackling as an individual or working together as a team in scrum or lineout. When the team comes off the field, we want our children to be able to say 'That was fun, we want to come back'. Players are encouraged to support each other (even when mistakes are made), to applaud opponents and to recognise the limits of aggression. This approach applies to all - players, parents, coaches and spectators alike. Please observe it. The good Parent's and Spectator's code - what we expect from you! Please do not force an unwilling child to participate in rugby, let them play for their own enjoyment not the parents. Treat everyone with respect - treat others how you would want them to treat you. Encourage your child to play by the Rules / Laws of the game - DO provide an example you wish others to follow. Recognise the value and importance of volunteer coaches and referees. They are someone's Mum and Dad, they give their time and resources freely to provide rugby for your child. Please encourage your child to listen and follow the coaching sessions. Why don't you try out a bit of coaching, it can be fun and rewarding. We actively encourage parents to become involved in both coaching and administrative roles - many hands make light work. Have respect for decisions made by the match officials by not publicly questioning the referee - when was the last time you were 100% right!! (Mothers-in-law are clearly exempt from this one as they are always right) Encourage, nuture and develop. Do not yell or ridicule when mistakes are made. Tell me, you've never made a mistake!! Applaud good play, from both sides - children learn best from example. Actively encourage all players irrespective of their ability - never ridicule a player regardless of the team they play for. Support the club in condemning bad behaviour and bad language. Never go onto the field of play - Stay off the pitch. Rugby - 'it's only a game!!' A Coach's Guide - The coaching session is the key to a players development Coaching can be a rich and satisfying experience, it is also a tremendous responsibility. Good Coaching requires the ability to get the best out of all the players. Children come first - winning comes second. Keep winning and losing in perspective. Treat each child as an individual. As a coach be reasonable in your demands on a young players time, energy and enthusiasm. Remember they may have other competing interests and education needs. Remember to reward effort as well as achievement. The laws of the game are there to provide a clear code of conduct - a code of behaviour. Players develop at different rates of pace, avoid over playing the talented player by using a squad system. Those less talented need and deserve equal time. The less capable player now may well be a future 1st XV player. Encourage the children to play for fun and enjoyment. Never ridicule or yell at the children for making mistakes or losing a game - mistakes and losing are valuable lifetime lessons. Players require coaching to progress - improve the player's skills through coaching. Frequent match play or long practice sessions do not guarantee development. People react far better to positive feedback as opposed to criticism - always try to stress the positive. Safety - Ensure that equipment and facilities are safe and appropriate to the age and ability of the players. Dangerous play can cause injuries, coaches and parents should be vigilant to prevent it. Its difficult playing the game without opposition and match officials, teach respect for the other participants. Follow the advice of doctors regarding when an injured of sick player is ready to play again. Keep up to date on coaching methods - the aim is to help the children develop We want our players to say, 'Our Coach was brilliant, he listened to what we had to say, we were taught something new, we want to come back next week'. Introduction to Mini age groups..